Many experts recommend that a grieving spouse or partner should not make any major life changes or big decisions for awhile after losing their partner. But not everyone can simply hold off on these things.
If you feel you need to move houses, how can you make it less stressful and more successful during this hard time? Here are a few tips to consider.
1. Don't Purge Aggressively
One of the most common pieces of advice when moving is to purge your unneeded belongings. However, now may not be the right time to do so. You may get rid of things that you'll later regret not having. On the other hand, you may not be able to let go of things you should.
It's okay to ignore the standard advice and move things you might get rid of later on. Err on the side of caution.
2. Get Lots of Help
Don't skimp on assistance with your move. Many loved ones will be happy to offer help with whatever you need, so take them up on it. Get physical help with the labor of packing and moving your stuff. But get moral support and emotional help as well so as not to be too alone or overwhelmed by the task at hand.
3. Put Safety First
When you're grieving, you're also likely distracted and emotional. This isn't a good combination for safety's sake. Distracted moving can result in injuries and breakage of valuable items. Outsource tasks that may be more complex or that you aren't sure how to approach. This includes things like disassembly and reassembly, moving large or awkward furnishings, or packing up potentially hazardous belongings.
4. Hand-Carry More Items
In every move, you should hand-carry some items to your new residence. This is usually for safety, security, and convenience.
You may need to hand-carry more things at this time, though. You might be more sentimental about protecting your spouse's mementos. Perhaps you need access to paperwork related to the passing. Or you may simply want items around which bring you comfort. Plan to travel with more stuff and arrange accordingly.
5. Be Kind to Yourself
Moving from the marital home and going through your loved one's belongings is difficult. Give yourself the time you need. Don't demand that you complete the work quickly, act efficiently, or make lots of decisions.
Let others take the lead when possible. Accept that it may be messier than it would be at another time. And don't beat yourself up about missed deadlines, packing accidents, or needing help.
Where to Start
The best place to begin your moving journey is by meeting with a team of experienced movers in your area. Let them know your situation so they can help with whatever you need. The result will be a happier, easier move and a fresh start elsewhere.
Contact a local moving company to learn more.